It’s not that we, as Christians, need to worry about how the world is starting to define marriage, but rather our focus should be on the marriages in our Christian community. I am oddly finding myself amidst several couples whose marriages are on rocky ground or in a perfect storm. But it seems so clear that hearts have hardened, the hurt has been done, and there’s no return to honest work it takes to make a marriage work.
I know I have been there on many occasions. I am (mostly) cognizant of the troubles I caused Pattie, her hurts, and disappointments. There was even a time early in our marriage that I screamed at her, scaring her to the core. But through it all, we worked on our communication and forgiveness. God provided me a wonderful wife, and I am indebted to Him for that perfect gift.
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
My heart is full of sorrow for the marriages that are being torn asunder. Yet with the frequency for which I am being introduced to these situations, it’s quite possible that God is calling on me to counsel those in need. And hopefully along the way, to those who wish to continue to feed their marital relationship. I think all men deserve a Proverbs 31 wife, and all women deserve an Ephesians 5 husband.
For you who are hurting, who can’t see the path to forgiveness and restoration, who would rather chase their own desires apart from the Lord – to you, I offer Hope. Not mine, but His. And not for my glory, but His.
There is someone near and dear to me, that when she got married, at best she was Agnostic. Her husband was a strong believer in the Lord. Through his tenacity and dedication, she was consistently exposed to God’s love, His forgiveness, and Christ’s teachings. Today she is a strong Christian, adoring to her husband, and a faithful servant to her King. So I’ve witnessed 1 Corinthians 7; God is faithful.
Similarly, another friend of mine was divorced when I first met her a few years ago. And if I told her then that she would be re-married to her husband, as well as expecting another child, surely she would have stoned me for being a false prophet. And yet God’s spirit moved and reconciled their marriage, just as he has done again and again with his first love – the nation of Israel.
The God of Israel is He who gives strength and power to His people.
Blessed be God!
So I know that God is faithful. I know God has made marriage to be a holy union between husband and wife. I know God desires reconciliation, not only with Him, but with each other – especially with spouses. And I know God can heal our marriages.
But only if we let Him.